A lot of older married friends/relatives would tell me that the first few years of marriage would be the adjustment phase for any couple. Bickering, fighting and tampuhan is very much normal. But really, there are times when your SO doesn’t seem that much special or significant, anymore. Grr.
So now, I’ve been reading a lot of online articles for couples as much as I’ve been reading up on baby articles. I want to share with you my latest read from LadiesHomeJournal.com entitled “Secrets of Super Happy Couples“. (click on the links to go to the page)
I’m so guilty of doing things against this list, especially on last few items. There are times when I would be soo mad that I would verbally throw things at my husband. Afterwards, I would feel so guilty about what I’ve done but I can’t really do anything to take back those hurtful things that I’ve said.
That’s why sometimes, or oftentimes, its really better to be kind that to be right.
They say marriage takes work, that the effort is something that will be done forever. Perhaps you guys have a few couple tips to share, please do post them here. C’mon, don’t be shy. It might mean help for others, too.
on Oct 29th, 2007 at 6:17 pm
ay naku—i used to prefer “arguing” (according to S, we don’t fight, we “argue”) and clearing things out before going to bed (as in I wanted to go to bed na “bati” na kami). but not with S. he thinks that if we continue arguing, we might just end up saying things we’ll later regret.
so now, same lang kami…i try to shut up nalang when i’m terribly pissed. (it’s soooo hard, because i sometimes still say something stupid, but i try)